Matt Nightingale is an educator, musician, speaker, writer and spiritual director living and working in the North San Francisco Bay Area. He is a teacher at Sonoma County Day School in Santa Rosa and co-pastor (along with long time best friend Tony Gapastione) of The Quest in Novato. He is also a spiritual director and support group facilitator with The Christian Closet, which offers web-based counseling, coaching and spiritual direction for LGBTQ Christians.
Matt’s musical/creative exploits have included performing a solo show at the Tulsa Jazz Hall of Fame, singing the national anthem at two 49ers games and a stint with the San Francisco Gay Men’s Chorus. His song “Always Entertaining Me” was featured in the hit Korean drama IRIS, and his song “Going Home” was recorded by Broadway star and Emmy winner Loretta Devine and is featured on the soundtrack of the short film “Neighbor.”
For seventeen years, Matt worked as a worship pastor in the Evangelical Covenant Church, serving churches in Redwood City, CA; Houston; Tulsa; Seattle and Santa Rosa. He is a graduate of the Spiritual Director Formation Program at The Journey Center in Santa Rosa and currently serves on its board of directors.
As a gay Christian, Matt is passionate about the intersection of sexuality and spirituality, and he works to create safe, sacred space for people exploring these identities. His TEDx talk, Choosing Gratitude and Hope, with his former wife, Luanne Nightingale, tells their story of mixed-orientation marriage, an evolving understanding of faith and sexuality, and the painful but necessary choice of divorce, all within the context of gratitude and hope.
Matt is the proud father of Joshua (24), Jacob (21), Emily and Zachary (17).